Getting Over a Breakup

Getting over a break up really depends on 3 things.
A) How willing are you to let go  B) The length and type of relationship you had C) The Reasons of the break up and it’s a process that sometimes takes time and sometimes is just almost immediately.

So the question is How to get over a break up?

Well before I keep writing let me tell you that there’s a difference between getting over the break up and getting over your ex. You can be over the break up but not over your ex. Now getting over a break up is simply that, getting over whatever happened between you two, the reasons of the break up and the fact that you’re no longer in a relationship once you got over it you can get over your ex so it is a process.

First thing to do is to get rid of  every negative feeling you have. Disappointment, Anger, Sadness, Frustration, etc… Get a punching back if is necessary. Take the time to process all your emotions. Once you’re over your emotions and got over the break up is time to get over your ex. At this point it should be easier because you’re on non-emotional zone so do whatever you need to do to get over your ex. What I think it works the best is unfriend him because the least thing you need is to know about him when you’re trying to get over him, so the less you think about him the more and the faster you get over him.

Keep yourself busy. Make no room to think about your ex
This is my favorite because is so efficient the busier you keep the more things flow so get yourself something to do on your spare time or even better find something new and exciting a to do and have the chance to get to know new people.

Pamper yourself
Do you know that feeling of wearing a revenge dress? Makes you feel pretty damn good right, well this is your time my friend to pamper yourself and get ready to get someone else attention. So indulge yourself, make an appointment to your favorite beauty spa, go shopping, get a weekend get away with your girl friends, Make it all about yourself!

Dating therapy
Let me tell you what’s great about dating again. Every time go out on a date someone reminds you what a awesome gal you are. You meet interesting guys with potential for more dates and have a great time.
Take your time, sometimes it’s a process but once you’re out of the emotional zone everything gets easier.

xo’s

Chickstyle

Tips for a great date

You like him, He likes you, You really hit it off and had a great time. Second date is at sight.

Hmm.. I was thinking… what makes a good date even better?

Here I came up with few tips.

Golden rule:
Always take your time to get ready. This is super important because sometimes we get caught up by time, specially on a busy day so make yourself some time to prep. If you’re meeting after work take few minutes to refresh yourself and change or do whatever you need to do before going on your date.

Get yourself on a happy place.
Before going on your date relax and get yourself on a happy place so by the time you get there the only one he’s going to see is the fabulous you.

Wear your sexy underwear.
Wearing your favorite pair of sexy underwear will not only make you feel sexier but more confident.

Be open to try anything new.
Chances are that on your date you’re going to explore new places and have new exciting experiences so be open to try anything new, you are not only let him see what a cool chick you are you might find new things to do.

And those are my tips for a great date.

Be chic and confident!

xo’s

Chickstyle

Cheaters among the Stars

I was reading Us weekly and I found an article that really made me cringe. I was reading  how Ashton Kutcher cheated on his wife Demi Moore on their sixth anniversary (I know, I know old news but I was at a hospital waiting room and there was only old magazine to read) but this girl, Sarah Leal gave details of what happened between the two of them and I was shocked! Girls, if you read the interview you would be as shock as I am.

 *Note to all cheaters out there:
You’re all a disgrace

Cheating on someone when you’re full aware of what you’re doing is pretty nasty, without mentioning that is just wrong. Cheating on someone is never justified and is never acceptable. For those who doesn’t care is all right what goes around come around and for those who do care well…Good luck with that! It’s a shame they should have thought twice about it before they cheated. Sometimes being sorry won’t cut it. With every action it comes a reaction so Guys/Girls gotta face the consequences on your actions.

Now I’m not gonna get all judgy here because I know everyone makes mistakes but come on, Seriously…? Was it a mistake or was it on purpose?

You know that said “Once a cheater always a cheater” well I say “Once an ass always an ass” So girls if he did not know what he had or he couldn’t appreciate it some other guy will. Do you want to be with an ass? I don’t think so!

Some mistakes are on purpose, some mistakes reconciled, some mistakes are not even acceptable. Some things can get fix some things can’t. Want to make mends and reconcile? Hmm… Good luck with that my friend! because ain’t gonna be easy. It is up to the other person so forgive you but it is up to you to show how much you regret it and how much you care about forgivenes and trust. Now I wonder why are there so many nasty break ups. Poor Demi, I don’t think anyone deserves such an ass for a husband.

Would you forgive an infidelity?

Guest post: Dating From a Girl's perspective

Enjoy a girl’s point of view into the dating world. New to blogging, Danielle started her blog few months ago check out 17raisonspourlesquelles to know more about her.

Dating is not a game, it’s not science, it’s not chance, it’s not a matter of numbers. Dating is part of our social structure. Is the way we identify potential partners to become our life mate. That said our complex social structure has made this process complicated, full of dead ends, cheats, deceit, false starts, disappointment and sometimes pain and tears. Also fun, good times, great memories, smiles, excitement, joy, love, butterflies in our stomach, chocolates, and so on.

So what can we do in order to make dating something nice, pleasant and ultimately a nice experience all around? First I would say we need to love and accept ourselves. We need to be at peace and in acceptance of ourselves always aware that there’s room for improvement. After we’ve come to love and accept ourselves we have to determine what do we want exactly. Are we looking for a long term relationship? Something more casual? Just to know people? Once we have that figured out, we need to know what do we want in a person to be able to fit into what we are looking for. Be always honest with the people we meet and ask the same in return and the most important thing never settle for someone that doesn’t treat you the way you would treat yourself. Remember your worth, that you are a valuable human being, no better no worse, but valuable because of who you are.

Enjoy dating, the good and the bad at the end it gives you experience to learn and do better

The allure of a bad boy

We all know this guy the bad boy but what’s the deal with this guy?
He’s very attractive,daring, so mysterious, rebellious, exciting, flirtatious, confident, playful, intriguing and a little bit of a challenge, he has all the traits that makes him hot plus he’s a real seductress which makes him very alluring. He is great at hooking up and most of the time he’s great in bed…oh the perfect mate for a women! But is it?

Let’s talk about this type of guys. Do bad boys finish first?

The bad boy better know as the jerk, the narcissistic, chauvinistic and selfish. They won’t commit and the only thing they care about is their own pleasure. They have no boundaries and don’t care how long they have to go to indulge themselves. This type of guy screams trouble, I can see why they’re so appealing to women. Ironically all the traits on a bad boy have its upside if they only could turn into positive.

The truth is that their confidence gravitates towards their looks and the fact that they know they’re good at what they do. Deep down they’re so shallow and they’re so insecure that they behave like jerks because that’s the only way then can get laid, acting like a jerk is their only way to get ahead. So do bad boys finish first? Yes they do! but only because that’s the only thing they’re good at and that’s the only thing they know how to do. Sadly but true!

Surviving to a LDR during the holidays

The holidays are just around the corner people gather around to celebrate and share with their love ones… What is not to love about the holidays? They are the perfect excuse to party and enjoy time with friends and family and why not, forget about the diet.

Over a month ago I wrote about Long Distance Relationships, now with my boyfriend gone as not being here with me rigth now and the holidays here I got inspired so… I have few ideas to feel closer to your significant other even when they’re miles away.

Is your first Christmas together or have you spend the holiday together before? If you have spent many Christmas together before you must have like a tradition or something that makes that holiday yours so find a way to share it.  Is it a favorite recipe? Do you host a party every year? Travel to see your family? Whatever it is there’s a way you can share that tradition. If you have a special recipe cook together… not possible huh? You can skype while making dinner that way you’ll be cooking together or you can talk on the phone while making dinner. Let’s get creative, there’s always a way you can share whatever is yours even thou you’re miles apart.

If this is your first Christmas together try to make it more special and meaningful because you’re far apart. This is the exciting part ladies because you can get as creative as you want and they are a lot of ways you can do this and if you love surprises like I do then you’re really going to enjoy this. What is it that you would like to do if you were together? Is there a way to recreate it? There’s nothing better that surprising your significant other that’s the best part about surprises. Mail your Christmas presents and open them together on Christmas day.

Got plans for New Years?
Make a list of your new year’s resolutions and read them to each other.
Call each other to countdown together.
If you’re both partying take pictures and send them to each other.
Make a video of your last year’s best memories.

Feeling daring for New Years?
Here’s an idea! Mail your red panties to your significant other

Have fun ladies!!

Do you have any other exciting ideas for this holidays?

Surviving to a LDR

Forget me not by Kim Anderson

Can you survive a long distance relationship?  Yes you can but the truth is…

Yikes!

They are very difficult to survive.  I know few succesful stories but most of the long distance relationships I know failed and I’m not being pessimistic here girls. I am a hopeless romantic gal, I believe in soul mates and love conquers all but when it comes to LDR  I’m not skeptic but I have to be realistic and this comes for a person that has experience it.

LDR are not easy, not easy at all!!! they require a lot of commitment and trust and if you’re not ready for the challenge is not going to succeed. Relationships are hard enough, now can you imagine being away from the person you want to be with? Of course if you focus on that you’re going to lose it, being away from the person you love is the cruelest thing ever. My question is… what makes a good long distance relationship endure?

I met a cute couple that were on a LDR and somehow they manage to keep a sane relationship, I believe they are so meant to be I don’t know them for that long  but as I’ve seen they are perfect for each other and they are married now. Is cute because they had to moved their wedding date because he got a job offer in spain so they had to move there and decide to move their wedding date earlier. No one knew when they got married because it happened so fast that they just had an intimate and private ceremony, only their family knew about it and of course their friends hear the news after they got married.
So what makes a good long distance relationship endure?

I think I have some tips.
Communication is the key not only for a LDR but for every relationship. Is very important to be honest and to keep the communication as much as possible, there’s no excuse we live on a world ruled by technology nowadays is very easy to communicate, video calls are great helpers, texting, e-mail, phone calls even mail.

Set what’s right and wrong
If you’re on a serious relationship at some point you have to talk about it because what might be normal for you might be wrong for your partner  so discuss your point of views and talk about what’s wrong and right so you can get to an understanding.

Keep the romance.
I don’t know if I’m the only one that sees LDR romantic. yes they can be pain in the ass too but if you see the bright side they can be romantic.  Send your loved one an e-mail reminding how much you love then and miss the. Surprise your love one, call just to say you love him. Be creative

Set a date to see each other
Distance is a bitch so set a date to see each other and spend some quality time together.

Discuss your schedule
If you two are too far away you’re schedules might not be the same especially if there is time difference. So talk about it because you don’t want to make your partner feel like is being ignore.

Keep the intimacy that makes you feel closer
Intimacy is very important on a relationship because it makes you feel closer so figure a way to keep it intimate.

Has anyone been on a long distance relationship?  How do you handdle it?

If only life were like romantic comedies

Hello girls!!

What’s your favorite movie? A friend and I were talking and she gave me the idea for this topic I think it is fun to write about it so here it is.

If Only Life Were Like Romantic Comedies…

Relationships would be so much easier, we wouldn’t care about dating rules (not to be a rule breaker but i hate such rules. I blame the guys. Who create such rules anyway? ) and Long Distance Relationships would be so easy and would be unbeatable. For those tha have been on a LDR knows how hard can be just few of them have success.

Who have had a sucky first date?
If only life were like romantic comedies we would all have the perfect first date, an envy wardrobe and a perfect job. We would make out in the rain and still looking fabulous, perfect couples and perfect relationships would exist and romance would never die.

If only life were like romantic comedies we would bumping to the love of our life at the grocery store or walking our dog. We would get lock out of our apartment and fall in love with the hot gentleman next door. Yes I have a big imagination (ha ha)

What’s your version of a romantic comedies?