Getting Over a Breakup

Getting over a break up really depends on 3 things.
A) How willing are you to let go  B) The length and type of relationship you had C) The Reasons of the break up and it’s a process that sometimes takes time and sometimes is just almost immediately.

So the question is How to get over a break up?

Well before I keep writing let me tell you that there’s a difference between getting over the break up and getting over your ex. You can be over the break up but not over your ex. Now getting over a break up is simply that, getting over whatever happened between you two, the reasons of the break up and the fact that you’re no longer in a relationship once you got over it you can get over your ex so it is a process.

First thing to do is to get rid of  every negative feeling you have. Disappointment, Anger, Sadness, Frustration, etc… Get a punching back if is necessary. Take the time to process all your emotions. Once you’re over your emotions and got over the break up is time to get over your ex. At this point it should be easier because you’re on non-emotional zone so do whatever you need to do to get over your ex. What I think it works the best is unfriend him because the least thing you need is to know about him when you’re trying to get over him, so the less you think about him the more and the faster you get over him.

Keep yourself busy. Make no room to think about your ex
This is my favorite because is so efficient the busier you keep the more things flow so get yourself something to do on your spare time or even better find something new and exciting a to do and have the chance to get to know new people.

Pamper yourself
Do you know that feeling of wearing a revenge dress? Makes you feel pretty damn good right, well this is your time my friend to pamper yourself and get ready to get someone else attention. So indulge yourself, make an appointment to your favorite beauty spa, go shopping, get a weekend get away with your girl friends, Make it all about yourself!

Dating therapy
Let me tell you what’s great about dating again. Every time go out on a date someone reminds you what a awesome gal you are. You meet interesting guys with potential for more dates and have a great time.
Take your time, sometimes it’s a process but once you’re out of the emotional zone everything gets easier.

xo’s

Chickstyle

Cheaters among the Stars

I was reading Us weekly and I found an article that really made me cringe. I was reading  how Ashton Kutcher cheated on his wife Demi Moore on their sixth anniversary (I know, I know old news but I was at a hospital waiting room and there was only old magazine to read) but this girl, Sarah Leal gave details of what happened between the two of them and I was shocked! Girls, if you read the interview you would be as shock as I am.

 *Note to all cheaters out there:
You’re all a disgrace

Cheating on someone when you’re full aware of what you’re doing is pretty nasty, without mentioning that is just wrong. Cheating on someone is never justified and is never acceptable. For those who doesn’t care is all right what goes around come around and for those who do care well…Good luck with that! It’s a shame they should have thought twice about it before they cheated. Sometimes being sorry won’t cut it. With every action it comes a reaction so Guys/Girls gotta face the consequences on your actions.

Now I’m not gonna get all judgy here because I know everyone makes mistakes but come on, Seriously…? Was it a mistake or was it on purpose?

You know that said “Once a cheater always a cheater” well I say “Once an ass always an ass” So girls if he did not know what he had or he couldn’t appreciate it some other guy will. Do you want to be with an ass? I don’t think so!

Some mistakes are on purpose, some mistakes reconciled, some mistakes are not even acceptable. Some things can get fix some things can’t. Want to make mends and reconcile? Hmm… Good luck with that my friend! because ain’t gonna be easy. It is up to the other person so forgive you but it is up to you to show how much you regret it and how much you care about forgivenes and trust. Now I wonder why are there so many nasty break ups. Poor Demi, I don’t think anyone deserves such an ass for a husband.

Would you forgive an infidelity?

Guest post: Dating From a Girl's perspective

Enjoy a girl’s point of view into the dating world. New to blogging, Danielle started her blog few months ago check out 17raisonspourlesquelles to know more about her.

Dating is not a game, it’s not science, it’s not chance, it’s not a matter of numbers. Dating is part of our social structure. Is the way we identify potential partners to become our life mate. That said our complex social structure has made this process complicated, full of dead ends, cheats, deceit, false starts, disappointment and sometimes pain and tears. Also fun, good times, great memories, smiles, excitement, joy, love, butterflies in our stomach, chocolates, and so on.

So what can we do in order to make dating something nice, pleasant and ultimately a nice experience all around? First I would say we need to love and accept ourselves. We need to be at peace and in acceptance of ourselves always aware that there’s room for improvement. After we’ve come to love and accept ourselves we have to determine what do we want exactly. Are we looking for a long term relationship? Something more casual? Just to know people? Once we have that figured out, we need to know what do we want in a person to be able to fit into what we are looking for. Be always honest with the people we meet and ask the same in return and the most important thing never settle for someone that doesn’t treat you the way you would treat yourself. Remember your worth, that you are a valuable human being, no better no worse, but valuable because of who you are.

Enjoy dating, the good and the bad at the end it gives you experience to learn and do better

The allure of a bad boy

We all know this guy the bad boy but what’s the deal with this guy?
He’s very attractive,daring, so mysterious, rebellious, exciting, flirtatious, confident, playful, intriguing and a little bit of a challenge, he has all the traits that makes him hot plus he’s a real seductress which makes him very alluring. He is great at hooking up and most of the time he’s great in bed…oh the perfect mate for a women! But is it?

Let’s talk about this type of guys. Do bad boys finish first?

The bad boy better know as the jerk, the narcissistic, chauvinistic and selfish. They won’t commit and the only thing they care about is their own pleasure. They have no boundaries and don’t care how long they have to go to indulge themselves. This type of guy screams trouble, I can see why they’re so appealing to women. Ironically all the traits on a bad boy have its upside if they only could turn into positive.

The truth is that their confidence gravitates towards their looks and the fact that they know they’re good at what they do. Deep down they’re so shallow and they’re so insecure that they behave like jerks because that’s the only way then can get laid, acting like a jerk is their only way to get ahead. So do bad boys finish first? Yes they do! but only because that’s the only thing they’re good at and that’s the only thing they know how to do. Sadly but true!

Surviving to a LDR during the holidays

The holidays are just around the corner people gather around to celebrate and share with their love ones… What is not to love about the holidays? They are the perfect excuse to party and enjoy time with friends and family and why not, forget about the diet.

Over a month ago I wrote about Long Distance Relationships, now with my boyfriend gone as not being here with me rigth now and the holidays here I got inspired so… I have few ideas to feel closer to your significant other even when they’re miles away.

Is your first Christmas together or have you spend the holiday together before? If you have spent many Christmas together before you must have like a tradition or something that makes that holiday yours so find a way to share it.  Is it a favorite recipe? Do you host a party every year? Travel to see your family? Whatever it is there’s a way you can share that tradition. If you have a special recipe cook together… not possible huh? You can skype while making dinner that way you’ll be cooking together or you can talk on the phone while making dinner. Let’s get creative, there’s always a way you can share whatever is yours even thou you’re miles apart.

If this is your first Christmas together try to make it more special and meaningful because you’re far apart. This is the exciting part ladies because you can get as creative as you want and they are a lot of ways you can do this and if you love surprises like I do then you’re really going to enjoy this. What is it that you would like to do if you were together? Is there a way to recreate it? There’s nothing better that surprising your significant other that’s the best part about surprises. Mail your Christmas presents and open them together on Christmas day.

Got plans for New Years?
Make a list of your new year’s resolutions and read them to each other.
Call each other to countdown together.
If you’re both partying take pictures and send them to each other.
Make a video of your last year’s best memories.

Feeling daring for New Years?
Here’s an idea! Mail your red panties to your significant other

Have fun ladies!!

Do you have any other exciting ideas for this holidays?

Today's Topic: Passion, a desirable feeling.

Passion: A temporary state of madness and desire.

 

 

You have seen it in the movies, one kiss led to a steamy make out session, the temperatures rises higher and higher as is hard to keep up with your breath as you go into an undeniable rush of passion that it is indescribable because words just would fall short on how amazing and ecstatic you felt.

Few months ago I wrote about Attraction vs. Love, two different but complementary things. While Love builds slowly Attraction attacks by surprise while unexpected and I think is important for them to be complementary to make a relationship endure.

Now back to subject, Passion alone is a temporary state of madness and desire but when it gets involve in a relationship Passion becomes an art of fusing two souls to make one.  Think about the scene I describe above.  Passion involve on a love scene, on the love making two becomes one just for the simple fact of being complementary. Passion alone is selfish and does not last long.

Yes! Passion is a way of expression that becomes an art.
Dancers are passionate about what they do; Tango for example is a very sensual and passionate dance that it really becomes an art of expression.

Passion becomes an art when you commit to the other person.