Surviving to a LDR

Forget me not by Kim Anderson

Can you survive a long distance relationship?  Yes you can but the truth is…

Yikes!

They are very difficult to survive.  I know few succesful stories but most of the long distance relationships I know failed and I’m not being pessimistic here girls. I am a hopeless romantic gal, I believe in soul mates and love conquers all but when it comes to LDR  I’m not skeptic but I have to be realistic and this comes for a person that has experience it.

LDR are not easy, not easy at all!!! they require a lot of commitment and trust and if you’re not ready for the challenge is not going to succeed. Relationships are hard enough, now can you imagine being away from the person you want to be with? Of course if you focus on that you’re going to lose it, being away from the person you love is the cruelest thing ever. My question is… what makes a good long distance relationship endure?

I met a cute couple that were on a LDR and somehow they manage to keep a sane relationship, I believe they are so meant to be I don’t know them for that long  but as I’ve seen they are perfect for each other and they are married now. Is cute because they had to moved their wedding date because he got a job offer in spain so they had to move there and decide to move their wedding date earlier. No one knew when they got married because it happened so fast that they just had an intimate and private ceremony, only their family knew about it and of course their friends hear the news after they got married.
So what makes a good long distance relationship endure?

I think I have some tips.
Communication is the key not only for a LDR but for every relationship. Is very important to be honest and to keep the communication as much as possible, there’s no excuse we live on a world ruled by technology nowadays is very easy to communicate, video calls are great helpers, texting, e-mail, phone calls even mail.

Set what’s right and wrong
If you’re on a serious relationship at some point you have to talk about it because what might be normal for you might be wrong for your partner  so discuss your point of views and talk about what’s wrong and right so you can get to an understanding.

Keep the romance.
I don’t know if I’m the only one that sees LDR romantic. yes they can be pain in the ass too but if you see the bright side they can be romantic.  Send your loved one an e-mail reminding how much you love then and miss the. Surprise your love one, call just to say you love him. Be creative

Set a date to see each other
Distance is a bitch so set a date to see each other and spend some quality time together.

Discuss your schedule
If you two are too far away you’re schedules might not be the same especially if there is time difference. So talk about it because you don’t want to make your partner feel like is being ignore.

Keep the intimacy that makes you feel closer
Intimacy is very important on a relationship because it makes you feel closer so figure a way to keep it intimate.

Has anyone been on a long distance relationship?  How do you handdle it?

If only life were like romantic comedies

Hello girls!!

What’s your favorite movie? A friend and I were talking and she gave me the idea for this topic I think it is fun to write about it so here it is.

If Only Life Were Like Romantic Comedies…

Relationships would be so much easier, we wouldn’t care about dating rules (not to be a rule breaker but i hate such rules. I blame the guys. Who create such rules anyway? ) and Long Distance Relationships would be so easy and would be unbeatable. For those tha have been on a LDR knows how hard can be just few of them have success.

Who have had a sucky first date?
If only life were like romantic comedies we would all have the perfect first date, an envy wardrobe and a perfect job. We would make out in the rain and still looking fabulous, perfect couples and perfect relationships would exist and romance would never die.

If only life were like romantic comedies we would bumping to the love of our life at the grocery store or walking our dog. We would get lock out of our apartment and fall in love with the hot gentleman next door. Yes I have a big imagination (ha ha)

What’s your version of a romantic comedies?

I'm sorry dear our marriage has expired...

Do you accept terms and conditions of this contract? No, I do not this is not a contract.

 

In Mexico lawmakers are trying to pass a license that allows couples that wants to get marry to choose the length of their marriage giving them a least a 2 year wedding license and not only that you actually get to put conditions on it so after this amount of time you'll have to renew your marriage  if you want to stay married which is ridiculous and I find it outrageous because people don't get married for an amount of time people get married to be with that person for the rest of their lives. So this is horrible!
Marriage is not a contract or an imposition. What happened to the nature of marriage? I'll love you until the day I die...for  the good and bad... For what I know everything has its ups and downs and this 2 year license thing gives the opportunity of an easy way out when things go to a difficult path instead of trying to work them out as it suppose to be on a marriage. This does not solve divorce issues, it might not be as many divorces but they would be a lot of pointless and senseless marriages.
Just Imagine to have to renew a contract every 2 years to be married, no is not romantic it takes away the magic and the meaning of a marriage. This is not a lease! is not like a car insurance. This really makes me mad because if you get married is because you love that person and you are willing to spend the rest of your life with that person because of love. Love is not a contract or an imposition and marriage shouldn't be either.  This whole 2 year licence will make it more of an obligation than a opcion and no one wants to feel obligated to get or stay married. That really takes away the meaning of it.